Possible Damaging Behaviors Of The BPD Parent

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  In order to write the articles on this site, which now number nearly 600, I have spent a considerable amount of time researching how borderline personality disordered parents can adversely affect the psychological development of their children. For this post, therefore, I thought it might be interesting to simply list some of the descriptions …

Six Main Causes Of Mental, Psychological And Emotional Pain

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Pain has 2 components:  a physical component a psychological/emotional component Whilst the brain does not process physical and psychological pain in precisely the same manner, experiments involving neural pathways strongly suggest that the experience of both types of pain have a lot in common. Indeed, similar brain regions are involved with the processing of both …

The Escape Theory Of Suicide And Its Relevance To Childhood Trauma

  We know that those of us who have suffered severe and protracted childhood trauma are at substantially increased risk of suicide. One of the main theories of why people commit suicide is the Escape Theory of Suicide which postulates that suicide is a culmination of a series of stages. The theory is of particular …

The Power Of The Mind For Reducing And Eliminating Pain

Could it be possible one day to treat pain by building on what is already known about the placebo effect and its very real impact on the brain? A placebo is a dummy pill (made of an inert and non-psychoactive substance like sugar) given to a patient and the placebo effect is the change in …

What Is CAPRD (Child Affected By Parental Relationship Distress)?

I remember, as a very young child, perhaps six or seven years of age, sitting on the stairs listening to my parent’s violent arguments going on downstairs. These would sometimes result in my mother becoming completely hysterical and running out of the house, threatening to never come back. If I was ever caught doing this, …

Identity Problems In BPD Linked To Inability To Mentally ‘Time Travel’

According to Gold et al. (2017), one of the underpinning reasons for a person with BPD to suffer from identity issues and a lack of a stable sense of self stem partly from a disrupted episodic memory making it harder for them to mentally revisit the past (Gold et al.  refer to this problem as …

Metacognitive Therapy For Borderline Personality Disorder And Other Conditions

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931-word article METACOGNITIVE THERAPY (MCT) Metacognitive therapy (MCT) was developed by Dr. Adrian Wells and Dr. Gerald Matthews in the early 1990s.  It shares elements in common with but is distinct from, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). The main difference is that whilst CBT concentrates upon the negative CONTENT of a person’s thoughts and strives to alter that …

‘Accepting Feelings Of Anxiety Reduces Mental Pain And Suffering

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      802-word article What Happens When We Don’t Accept Anxiety But, Instead, Try To Fight And Struggle Against It? Trying to fight anxiety, research suggests (and, certainly, my own experience of anxiety would tend to confirm this) can actually AGGRAVATE the problem and lead to greater feelings of distress. Stating the shatteringly obvious, none of …

Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy Audios For Relief Of Mental Pain

My Personal Experience Of Pain: The pain I experienced was not wholly physical or wholly mental but something in between. This is perhaps not surprising as both physical and mental pain are processed by the same brain regions, so emotional and physical pain are closely interrelated.  Maddeningly, such pain is extremely difficult to articulate. So, …

Childhood Emotional Abuse Link To Adult Chronic Pain

Research conducted by  Kascakova et al. (2020) suggests that if we experience emotional abuse as a child this significantly increases our risk of suffering from a chronic pain condition as an adult. But why should this be? According to Talley et al., (1998) one possibility is that childhood trauma increases the risk of individuals developing …

Do Alternative And Complimentary Therapy For PTSD Work?

A systematic review conducted by Wahbey et al.and published in the Journal of Evidence-Based Complementary and Alternative Medicine was carried out in order to assess the effectiveness of various complementary and alternative therapies for PTSD using Natural-Standard evidence-based, validated grading rationale. The following complementary and alternative therapies were assessed: REPETITIVE TRANSCRANIAL MAGNETIC STIMULATION ACUPUNCTURE HYPNOTHERAPY …

Integrating Parts Of Brain And Body To Resolve Trauma

Siegel (2012), an internationally renowned neuroscientist, in what many regard as a revolutionary approach to psychotherapy, has made use of the most recent neuroscientific technologies and new insights and knowledge relating to interpersonal neurobiology to help individuals suffering from the effects of trauma to develop various healing qualities such as compassion, well-being, resilience and kindness …

Why Do Some Parents Publicly Shame Their Children?

774-word article I remember when I was very young, perhaps 4 or 5 years old, my mother would shame me in public for anything i did that she considered a transgression, by threatening to take down my trousers and spank me. This would have been in the 1970s when attitudes towards child maltreatment were more …

Does Parental Clinical ‘Overvaluation’ Of Their Child Create A Narcissist?

Freud first introduced the concept of parental ‘overvaluation’. ‘Overvaluation’ is a clinical term used by psychologists and it can be defined as parental behavior that encourages the child to believe s/he is more entitled than others, superior to them, and entitled to privileges denied to others. Such parents will frequently over praise their children, overclaim …

Homophobic Parents And Effects On Their LGBTIQ+ Child

939-word article Whilst homosexuality was legalized in the UK in 1967 and attitudes towards gay people are far better than they were, there still exists homophobia in society, and that society includes, of course, parents. Indeed, according to the Human Rights Survey, about 25 percent of LGBTIQ+ youth regard the most major problem in their …

How We View Our Childhood Trauma Crucial To Our Mental Health

478 word article Is it what happens to us in childhood that affects our mental health or is it how we PERCEIVE what happened to us as being the crucial factor? To help answer this question a study was undertaken by Danese and Widom (2020) The study involved  two groups: GROUP ONE: 908 individuals who …

4 Types Of Borderline Mother : Witch, Hermit, Waif And Queen.

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    For those of us who grew up with mothers who suffered from a borderline personality disorder (BPD), our childhoods were often painful and anguished. We found ourselves living in a world that was contradictory and confusing; it is likely that we suffered chronic anxiety as we did not know how our mother would …

Pathological Lying : Its Link To Childhood Trauma

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What Is A Pathological Liar? Those who have suffered significant childhood trauma are more likely to become pathological liars / compulsive liars in adulthood than those who were lucky enough to experience a relatively stable upbringing (all else being equal). A pathological liar is an individual who: – does not give proper thought to the …

The Manipulative Parent

There are many ways in which the manipulative parent may manipulate their offspring, including: emotional blackmail  verbal aggression implicit or explicit threats deceit use of ‘the silent treatment’ control through money or material goods positive reinforcement of behaviour which is damaging to the child coercion behaving in a passive-aggressive manner projection denial of obviously destructive …

Do Gay People Have More Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)?

A study conducted by Anderson and Blosnich (2013) was carried out in order to investigate whether or not gay and bisexual individuals had, on average, experienced more adverse childhood experiences than their heterosexual counterparts. Before we look at the study, it is worth very briefly reminding ourselves of the most well-known study on the effects …