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What Is CAPRD (Child Affected By Parental Relationship Distress)?

I remember, as a very young child, perhaps six or seven years of age, sitting on the stairs listening to my parent’s violent arguments going on downstairs. These would sometimes result in my mother becoming completely hysterical and running out of the house, threatening to never come back. If I was ever caught doing this, …

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The Manipulative Parent

There are many ways in which the manipulative parent may manipulate their offspring, including: emotional blackmail  verbal aggression implicit or explicit threats deceit use of ‘the silent treatment’ control through money or material goods positive reinforcement of behaviour which is damaging to the child coercion behaving in a passive-aggressive manner projection denial of obviously destructive …

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When ‘Survival Brain’ Replaces ‘Learning Brain’ Due To Childhood Trauma

If we suffer severe, protracted childhood trauma that involved us living in an environment in which we were constantly anticipating danger from an abusive parent or primary carer it is possible that our ‘survival’ brain was so frequently activated that it became dominant at the expense of the development and functioning of the ‘learning’ brain. …

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How Religious Indoctrination In Childhood Can Fuel OCD

THOUGHT-ACTION FUSION   Indoctrinating the child with certain religious beliefs relating to how one should think can provide extremely fertile ground for the development of the obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) due, in part, to a phenomenon known as THOUGHT-ACTION FUSION. The phrase ‘thought-action fusion’ refers to the dysfunctional belief that to merely THINK about doing something …

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Childhood Trauma And Secondary Psychopathy

It has been argued (e.g. Cleckley, 1988) that there exist two types of psychopaths: Primary (also referred to as ‘true’) psychopaths Secondary psychopaths Primary psychopaths have been defined as those who commit antisocial acts because of an idiopathic (an idiopathic condition is one that seems to occur spontaneously or for unknown reasons) lack of fear …

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The Antilibidinal Ego: Self-Protection Following Trauma

antilibidinal ego In the object relations theory of British psychoanalyst W. Ronald D. Fairbairn (1889–1964), the portion of the ego structure is similar to Sigmund Freud’s superego. The antilibidinal ego constitutes a nonpleasure-gratifying, self-deprecatory, or even hostile self-image; it is posited to develop out of the unitary ego present at birth when the infantile libidinal ego (similar to the id) …

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Problems Those With BPD May Encounter In The Workplace

There is a very strong link between the experience of severe and protracted childhood trauma and being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) in later life. As we have seen in other articles I have published on this site, BPD is a very serious disorder that can lead to extreme difficulties in many important areas …

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Three Types Of Flashback: Visual, Somatic And Emotional

Sufferers of both posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex posttraumatic stress disorder (Complex PTSD) experience terrifying flashbacks. Such flashbacks can be split into three categories as follows: VISUAL FLASHBACKS SOMATIC FLASHBACKS EMOTIONAL FLASHBACKS Below, I briefly describe the form each of these three types of flashback take: VISUAL FLASHBACKS:    As a result of a …

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Is Your Chronic Pain Linked To Muscle Armouring?

      N.B. If you suffer from pain it is important to ensure it does not have a physical cause by consulting an appropriate professional.  One of the hallmarks of complex PTSD is a perpetual feeling of being under threat, stemming from constantly feeling afraid and vulnerable during childhood. This is true even though …

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Odd, Quasi-Psychotic And True Psychotic Thinking In BPD Sufferers

A study conducted by Zachirini et al. (2013)investigated the prevalence of disturbed thought in 290 in-patients who had been diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder). The quality of disordered thinking measured in these 290 BPD in-patients was compared to the quality of disordered thinking measured in 72 non-BPD in-patients who had another (i.e. different) Axis …

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8 Dysfunctional Roles Within The Dysfunctional Family

Within dysfunctional families, according to various psychologists (e.g. Wegscheider-Cruse and Kellogg), each family member develops a dysfunctional role. The number of roles, and how they are defined, varies somewhat but eight roles, representative of those so far proposed, are as follows: THE ENABLER THE DO-ER THE HERO THE MASCOT THE LOST CHILD / LONER THE …

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Childhood Trauma Linked To Agoraphobia

The term agoraphobia derives from the Greek word ‘agora’ which translates as ‘open place’ or ‘market place’ so ‘agoraphobia’, in literal terms (as opposed to clinical terms) means fear of ‘open places’ or ‘fear of the market place.’ Agoraphobia is listed by DSM-5 (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition – sometimes …

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Being Traumatized ‘Like Having Foot On Brake And Gas At Same Time.’

The traumatized state has been likened to the effects of the simultaneous depression of both a car’s gas pedal (accelerator) and brake. I explain why below: Our physiological state of arousal is determined by the interplay between our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and these two systems have the following functions : THE SYMPATHETIC AND …

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Childhood Trauma Can Make Us Terrified Of Accepting Love In Adulthood.

It is well documented that severe and protracted childhood trauma greatly increases our risk of experiencing relationship difficulties in our adult lives. In some cases, this can result in fear, or even terror, of close, loving relationships in our adult lives. Many reasons have been put forward in an attempt to explain this not uncommon …

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How Childhood Trauma Is Linked To ‘Personality Disintegration’

We have seen in numerous other articles that I have published on this site that if we suffered severe and protracted trauma during childhood we are at significantly increased risk, as adults, of being diagnosed with extremely serious psychiatric conditions such as borderline personality disorder (BPD) and complex posttraumatic stress disorder (complex PTSD). And, as …

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Signs An Adult Was Abused As A Child

Signs an adult was abused as a child include the following : 1) DISSOCIATION : Symptoms of dissociation can range from mild to severe: Mild symptoms of dissociation include ‘zoning out’ and feeling in a daze, whereas severe symptoms of dissociation may include amnesia, time loss and feeling out of control.  2) UNSTABLE RELATIONSHIPS WITH …

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Childhood Rejection Leading To Possessive Behavior In Adult Relationships

If we were rejected when we were children by parents / primary carers this can have a profound effect upon our adult, intimate relationships, causing them to be ruined by perpetual, intense fear of losing our partner and re-experiencing the intolerable emotional pain that was generated by our experience of rejection and abandonment when young. …

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Are Adult Borderline Personality Disorder Sufferers Eternal 13-Year-Olds?

The normal development of self involves the following stages. Approximately 6 months: the capacity for self-observation develops Approximately 12 months: the capacity for symbolic thinking becomes well established as does a ‘sense of self’ Approximately 7 to 11 years: the capacity for concrete operational thinking becomes established, as does an intense emotional life. Also, at …

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Childhood Trauma, The Shame Loop And Defenses Against Shame

    Feelings of shame can be excruciatingly painful; at their worst, they can cause us to completely isolate ourselves so that we avoid contact with others to the extent that we may become virtual recluses, perhaps only daring to venture out of our house or flat when absolutely necessary. Indeed, the word ‘shame‘ derives from …

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Overcoming Feelings Of Shame With Counseling

  We have seen from other articles that I have published on this site that those of us who have experienced significant and protracted childhood trauma often experience irrational, deep feelings of shame as adults which can severely disrupt our lives. (f Because living with profound feelings of shame is so psychologically painful and impinges …

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