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A Closer Look At Overcoming An Inferiority Complex

 

overcoming an inferiority complex

We have already seen that those of us who suffered significant childhood trauma are at increased risk of developing an inferiority complex as adults. For example, we may be at increased risk because our parents constantly criticized and derided us, making us feel we were of very little worth.

My own inferiority complex was so massive that in the evolutionary hierarchy I rated my place in it as falling somewhere between reptile and rodent.

In my previous article about the causes of an inferiority complex, I looked very briefly at ways we might be able to overcome it ; in this article, however, I want to go into greater depth as to how this may be achieved.

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1) Stop attaching so much importance to what others think about you :

People often look back on their lives and wish they had not allowed it to be so constrained by concerns about other people’s views and opinions about them. Stopping worrying what others think of us and living an authentic life is extremely liberating. After all, what others think about us is merely their opinion and may well be utterly invalid. Also, it is a fact of life that some people will always be critical of us. The adage that you can’t please all the people all the time is true for everyone.

Furthermore, people may criticize us due to their own feelings of inferiority, projecting their own sense of inadequacy onto us. Arrogant people, for example, tend to act arrogantly as a defense mechanism against underlying feelings of low self-esteem.

Most people, too, are far too preoccupied with concerns about their own failings to focus very much on ours.

It is our view of ourselves that really matters if we are to have good self-esteem, not that of others.

What would the Prime Minister achieve if he became paralyzed with uncertainty and self-doubt every time he was criticized in the media or by the Opposition? Nothing. He wouldn’t get out of bed.

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2) Concentrate on your qualities:

People with feelings of inferiority tend to over-focus, or even become obsessive, about the ‘failings’ they believe they have whilst ignoring or minimizing their positive qualities and characteristics.

It is known that those who suffered abusive childhoods very frequently have an unrealistic and irrational view of themselves as being of little worth; this is because they were conditioned to develop this inaccurate view of themselves by those who were supposed to be their primary carers when they were young.

People affected in this way may have developed thinking errors or cognitive distortions that can be effectively treated with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).

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3) Stop comparing yourself to others:

Whatever we do, there will always be people that are better at it than we are (unless we are the best in the world at something, and, even then, we can’t stay in that top position indefinitely).

Just because people are better at some things than we are, that does not diminish our value and importance as a human being. After all, we are all the product of the interaction between our genes and our environment. Some people just have luckier combinations of these two elements than others – this does not make them superior beings. Likewise, it does not make us inferior beings.

4) What we think of as our failings may, in fact, be positive qualities in the eyes of others:

For example, we may dislike our shyness, but someone else may view this shyness as an endearing quality. Or we may dislike being ‘naive’ and ‘inexperienced’ but, again, someone else may view this as touching innocence. Or we may think we’re not ‘clever’ enough, but others may see this as a refreshing  lack of pretentiousness.

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David Hosier BSc Hons; MSc; PGDE( FAHE).

 

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