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Arrested Psychological Development and Age Regression

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Arrested Psychological Development

Traumatic life events can cause the child to become ‘stuck’ at a particular level of psychological development for an extended period of time – s/he may, therefore, often seem immature as development was frozen at an earlier stage.

For example, an eleven year old child who was abandoned by his/her primary carer at age four may throw tantrums similar to those one might expect of a four year old when left with an unfamiliar baby-sitter. In other words, s/he may regress behaviorally to the developmental stage at which s/he became frozen. Such regressive behavior is a temporary reaction to real or perceived trauma.

age regression

Severe trauma can result in commensurately severe developmental delays. For example, a ten year old child who has experienced severe trauma may not yet have developed a conscience (even though a conscience usually develops around the of ages six to eight). This does NOT mean that the child is ‘bad’, it is just that s/he has not yet reached the relevant developmental stage. This can be rectified by the child identifying with a parent or carer and internalizing that identification.

It is vital to point out that if a child has never had the opportunity to identify with a safe and rational adult and has not, therefore, been able to internalize adult values, we cannot expect that child to have developed a conscience.

Indeed, if there has been little or no justice or predictability in the child’s life, and s/he is ill-treated for no discernible reason by adults in a position of trust, developing a conscience may not even have been in the child’s best interests. In extreme circumstances, for example, it may have been necessary for the child to lie, steal and cheat purely in order to survive; once s/he has learned such behaviors are necessary to his/her very survival, these same behaviors become extremely difficult to unlearn.

Below I list some of the main factors that may lead to arrested development.


separation from the primary care-giver

– all forms of abuse

– foster care



– parental alcohol/drug misuse


One of the main traumas a child can suffer is a problematic early relationship with the primary care- giver; these problems can include the primary care-giver having a mental illness, abusing alcohol/drugs, or otherwise abusing or abandoning the child. In such cases, attachment disorder is likely to occur in the child – this disorder can impair or even cripple a child’s ability to trust and bond with others. In such cases, it is the child’s ability to attach to other human beings which is impaired by developmental delays.

Since such a child’s development has essentially become frozen in relation to his/her ability to bond with others, s/he will not ‘grow out’ of the problem behaviors associated with attachment disorder without a great deal of emotional ‘repair work.’

the main examples of these are listed below :

little eye contact with parents

– lack of affection with parents

telling extremely obvious lies

– stealing

delays in learning

poor relationships with peers

cruelty to animals

lack of conscience

– preoccupation with fire

– very little impulse control /hyperactivity

– abnormal speech patterns

abnormal eating patterns

– inappropriate demanding behavior

inappropriate clingy behavior


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Arrested Development : Are Adult BPD Sufferers Eternal 13-Year-Olds?

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Many people, such as, most famously, the now deceased Michael Jackson during his adulthood, want to be forever young. But be careful what you wish for : new research suggests that those suffering from borderline personality disorder (BPD) may have ceased to develop emotionally at around the age of thirteen years due to the occurrence of severe trauma around this critical period in their psychological development.

In other words, they become emotionally developmentally arrested : puer aeternus (eternal children). Far from being a desirable state, it can make their adult lives all but impossible (click here to read my article about BPD to learn about its main symptoms).

And their consequent behaviour during adulthood, as a result of having BPD, is not like that of a well-balanced and well-adjusted thirteen- year-old, but that of a challenging and difficult one.

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So, according to this new research, those suffering from BPD can be regarded as being ‘stuck’ in the early adolescent phase of personality and emotional development. Because of this, their emotions remain labile, unstable and turbulent.

In particular, due to this arrested development of the personality, research suggests such individuals will :

– be hypersensitive to rejection

– have poor self-control (eg impulsivity/recklessness/diminished concern for the negative consequences of behaviour)

– have an excessive need for instant gratification

Therapies which may help individuals experiencing the kinds of psychological symptoms that I have referred to above may benefit, in particular, from two specific types of psychotherapy – these are cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT).


You can read my article about how cognitive behaviour therapy may be helpful, please click here.

Or, to read my article on dialectical behavioral therapy, please click here.

You may also be interested in reading my post on the so-called Peter Pan Syndrome by clicking here.

For more general information about CBT, click here

For more general information about DBT, click here




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Do You Feel You Got Psychologically ‘Stuck’ At The Time Of Your Trauma?

If we experienced significant trauma in the past we may find we became intensely, psychologically caught up in it, and it retains such a mental hold over us, that it now feels we are almost ‘trapped in time’, unable to contemplate, let alone plan for, the future. Instead, we may find, very much against our own wishes, that we are obsessively thinking about our traumatic experiences and how these experiences have emotionally damaged us.

In young people, this can result in a phenomenon known as : arrested psychological development. (Click here to read my article on this) which means that the affected person gets ‘stuck’ at the stage of psychological development s /he was at at the time of the traumatic experience.

Hence, a forty-year-old who experienced severe childhood trauma in his/her teens, if s /he has not undergone therapy, may find s /he still has the emotional maturity level of a thirteen-year-old (or, indeed, a highly disturbed thirteen-year-old), perhaps prone to child-like tantrums and explosions of fury, impulsivity and difficulty forming mature relationships.

The psychologists Jarisch and Herbert (1998) theorised that, ‘a person’s energy gets stuck’ at the time the trauma occurred so that, from then on, everything that this person does in life is clouded, overshadowed and dominated by the memories of the trauma.

In psychological terms, it is always Groundhog Day. Emotionally, we are mired in quick-sand. Sinking. Always sinking.

Indeed, it becomes increasingly difficult to remember how we felt before our traumatic experiences. It is as if our life before the trauma was lived by another person, to all intents and purposes a stranger, and a stranger with whom we tragically no longer have anything in common.

We may feel our position is hopeless and that we are powerless to do anything about it. We may once have been confident and outgoing, but now feel psychologically delicate and fragile and, therefore, highly vulnerable. We no longer ever feel safe and secure.

On top of all this, our views, opinions and general interpretation of life’s events, especially our interpretation of what others say and do, becomes warped and distorted by the lens of trauma through which we are condemned to view things. Cynicism and pessimism are now likely to take their place amongst our primary characteristics.

Is Recovery Possible?

People afflicted in this manner CAN and DO get better ( irrespective of how bleak one’s prognosis may subjectively seem).

However, in order to achieve recovery it is imperative that we take the first step which will lay the foundation of our recovery : a belief that we CAN get better.

This can be extremely hard if we are clinically depressed as it leads to feelings of utter hopelessness and powerlessness (and therefore also to an extremely tenaciously held view that things will never get better, even when this is quite clearly (in objective terms) not the case.

Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT)

As some readers will know already, CBT can be very effective treatment for people suffering from the kind of condition described above.



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David Hosier BSc Hons; MSc; PGDE(FAHE).