When a child is continually mistreated, s/he will inevitably conclude that s/he must be innately bad. This is because s/he has a need (at an unconscious level) to preserve the illusion that her/his parents are good; this can only be …
How False Feelings Of Being ‘Bad’ Are Perpetuated
Childhood Trauma, The Shame Loop And Defenses Against Shame
The Agonizing Effects Of Shame
Feelings of shame can be excruciatingly painful; at their worst, they can cause us to completely isolate ourselves so that we avoid contact with others to the extent that we may become …
Why Complex PTSD Sufferers May Avoid Eye Contact
A study by Steuwe et al. (2014) was conducted to cast light upon why many with individuals suffering from posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), including those suffering from complex-PTSD, often find it excruciatingly uncomfortable every time the rules of social …
Why We Must Stop Blaming Ourselves For Our Mistreatment.
Self-Blame
It is an established fact that most children who are mistreated by their parents or primary caregivers believe they are to blame for their abuse. I know I did. Indeed, I concluded I must be a terrible person or …
