Why Do Some Parents Publicly Shame Their Children?

774-word article I remember when I was very young, perhaps 4 or 5 years old, my mother would shame me in public for anything i did that she considered a transgression, by threatening to take down my trousers and spank me. This would have been in the 1970s when attitudes towards child maltreatment were more …

Does Parental Clinical ‘Overvaluation’ Of Their Child Create A Narcissist?

Freud first introduced the concept of parental ‘overvaluation’. ‘Overvaluation’ is a clinical term used by psychologists and it can be defined as parental behavior that encourages the child to believe s/he is more entitled than others, superior to them, and entitled to privileges denied to others. Such parents will frequently over praise their children, overclaim …

Narcissistic Parents’ Use Of The Complimentary Moral Defense

        Having lived with my highly unstable mother until since my parents’ divorce when I was eight, I moved into the house of my father and step-mother (I have explained how this came about elsewhere on this site) when I was thirteen. It was obvious from the start that I was not …

Two Main Ways Narcissistic Parents May Use Their Children.

We have seen from other articles that I have previously published on this site that narcissistic parents tend to see their children as possessions and as extensions of themselves, as opposed to individuals in their own right (this can lead to the child growing up to develop serious identity problems). They also lack empathy for …

How Narcissistic Parents Weaken Our Sense Of A Personal Boundary.

Because narcissistic parents are so unpredictable, and their mood changes so mercurial and frightening, the young child quickly learns, largely on an unconscious level, that s/he (i.e. the young child) must be able to ‘read’, with great precision, such a parent’s feelings and emotions lest s/he fails to respond in such a way that meets …

Enabling Fathers And Narcissistic Mothers

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  Parents can hurt their children both by acts of commission (what they do) and by acts of omission (what they don’t do). We have seen already how narcissistic mothers can profoundly damage their children, and, if the father does nothing to intervene to prevent such damage occurring it is an act of omission; fathers …

Is Your Mother Self-Absorbed, Lacking In Empathy And Narcissistic?

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I have already published several articles on the effects on us of being brought up by a narcissistic parent. In this article, I intend to focus upon the main characteristics that are frequently found in narcissistic mothers. These characteristics are as follows: 1) Self-absorption: she regards her own needs as absolutely paramount which completely take …