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DIVORCE – Childhood Trauma Recovery

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The Vital Need To Address Childhood Trauma In Prisoner Rehabilitation

A study conducted by Stensrud et al., 2018 involving 328 male and female prisoners found that the majority reported having experienced far more ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES (ACEs) than the average citizen from the general population and that this was especially the case amongst those who had experienced childhood sexual abuse. A survey of prisoners in …

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What Is CAPRD (Child Affected By Parental Relationship Distress)?

I remember, as a very young child, perhaps six or seven years of age, sitting on the stairs listening to my parent’s violent arguments going on downstairs. These would sometimes result in my mother becoming completely hysterical and running out of the house, threatening to never come back. If I was ever caught doing this, …

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Triangulation: When Parents Use The Child As A ‘Go-Between.’

Sometimes in situations where there is discord between the two parents in a marriage or partnership and, as a result, a breakdown in communication. Such breakdowns in communication may occur, for example, because the parents aren’t speaking to each other due to animosity or because they are living geographically apart the child may be used …

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The Many And Varied Elements Of Divorce Which Can Damage The Child

It has been argued that the divorce of parents should not be considered a single event when analyzing its potentially negative psychological effect on children but rather as a combination of events. These include: the tension/hostility between parents that the child witnesses (although, of course, some divorces are conducted on far more amicable terms than …

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Emotional Abuse Anecdotes: The Step-Father With An Alias

This anecdote from real life is the first in the series of Emotional Abuse Anecdotes published on childhoodtraumarecovery.com. Each anecdote in the series is followed by a brief psychological explanation and analysis. The Step-Father With An Alias My parents divorced when I was eight and, after this, my mother dated a number of different men …

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Do People With BPD Divorce More And Remarry Less?

Because some of the hallmarks of borderline personality disorder (a personality disorder closely associated with severe and protracted, interpersonal childhood trauma) are extreme difficulty in forming and maintaining relationships (dramatically fluctuating between idealizing and then demonizing and discarding others) wildly fluctuating emotions, and a tendency to fly into intense rages one might reasonably predict that …

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How Very Early Life Experience Can Increase Your Risk Of Divorce

Shaver points out the following parallels between our early life relationship with our primary carer and our adult relationships with our romantic partners : Just as, in early life, our primary carer was our main attachment figure, so too, in adulthood, our romantic partner becomes our main attachment figure. Just as, in early life, we …

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Divorce : Signs Children Are Being Used As Pawns Or Weapons

Introduction : I have already published on this site articles which examine the potentially very psychologically damaging effects that divorce, particularly a  divorce that is acrimonious, can inflict upon the child. My own parents divorced when I was eight years old, so I do have some personal experience in relation to this subject. When parents …

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Acrimonious Divorces May Damage Children’s Immune Systems

  A study conducted by Murphy et al (2017) suggests that childhood trauma (and, specifically, in this case, the experience, as a child, of having had parents who divorced acrimoniously) can adversely affect the immune system. The study involved 201 ‘normal’ adult participants whose parents had separated during their childhoods. The participants were divided into …

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Effects Of Divorce On Children Under Five On Relationship With Parents

What Are The Effects Of Divorce On Children Under Five? I have already written more generally about the effect of divorce on children elsewhere on this site (click here to read one of my related articles). However, this article considers the effect on children who are particularly young (under the age of five years) with …

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Parental Alienation Syndrome And Effect Of Divorce On Children

What Is The Effect Of Divorce On Children? My own parents divorced when I was eight years old. Initially, when my father left, in order to ‘protect’ me (I assume) my mother told me that my father had moved away to ‘be nearer work’ (he worked in central London and we lived about twenty miles …

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Combined Effects of Divorce and Emotional Abuse on The Child.

    Sometimes, when parents divorce, the child finds s/he is left to be brought up by a dysfunctional parent, perhaps because the single-parent is under enormous stress and/or suffers from mental illness. Indeed, this was the situation I found myself in from the age of eight, so I know how serious the effects on …

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