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Explaining Traumatic Memories With The Linen Cupboard Metaphor

THE PROCESSING OF NORMAL MEMORIES: Normal memories that have been fully processed have a temporal context that enables us to remember when, or roughly when, they happened. In other words, the memories have what is sometimes figuratively referred to as a ‘date stamp.’ The ‘date stamp’ is attached to the memory the part of the …

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Homophobic Parents And Effects On Their LGBTIQ+ Child

  939-word article Whilst homosexuality was legalized in the UK in 1967 and attitudes towards gay people are far better than they were, there still exists homophobia in society, and that society includes, of course, parents. Indeed, according to the Human Rights Survey, about 25 percent of LGBTIQ+ youth regard the most major problem in …

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4 Types Of Borderline Mother : Witch, Hermit, Waif And Queen.

    “The Queen is controlling, the Witch is sadistic, the Hermit is fearful, and the Waif is helpless”.   Christine Ann Lawson, Understanding the Borderline Mother For those of us who grew up with mothers who suffered from a borderline personality disorder (BPD), our childhoods were often painful and anguished. We found ourselves living …

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Pathological Lying : Its Link To Childhood Trauma

– lies spontaneously/impulsively – lies even though he may receive no benefit whatsoever from the lie (indeed, many lies s/he tells will be self-damaging) – has little or no control over his/her lying behavior Roots Of Pathological Lying (Originally Called Pseudologia Phantastica) In Childhood: Research has demonstrated that an individual is more likely to become …

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The Manipulative Parent

There are many ways in which the manipulative parent may manipulate their offspring, including: emotional blackmail  verbal aggression implicit or explicit threats deceit use of ‘the silent treatment’ control through money or material goods positive reinforcement of behaviour which is damaging to the child coercion behaving in a passive-aggressive manner projection denial of obviously destructive …

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When ‘Survival Brain’ Replaces ‘Learning Brain’ Due To Childhood Trauma

If we suffer severe, protracted childhood trauma that involved us living in an environment in which we were constantly anticipating danger from an abusive parent or primary carer it is possible that our ‘survival’ brain was so frequently activated that it became dominant at the expense of the development and functioning of the ‘learning’ brain. …

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The Many Ways Divorce Is Bad For The Child

Is divorce bad for a child? It has been argued that the divorce of parents should not be considered a single event when analyzing its potentially negative psychological effect on children but rather as a combination of events. These include: the tension/hostility between parents that the child witnesses (although, of course, some divorces are conducted …

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Writing About Our Traumatic Experiences Can Be Beneficial To Health

            We know that childhood trauma is strongly associated with poor mental and physical health in later life (e.g. see the ACE study) due to the hazardous, long-term effects of prolonged and repetitive toxic stress and the effect that has on the mind, brain, and body e.g. due to the …

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Labeling And Understanding Our Emotions May Reduce Inflammation And Improve Health

  A study conducted in New Zealand, involving 1,037 children, assessed these young people according to : the degree to which they had suffered maltreatment as children which socio-economic group they belonged the extent to which they had suffered social isolation Thirty years after this assessment had been made, the same individuals were assessed again, …

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What Were The Effects Of Adolf Hitler’s Childhood And Did He Have BPD?

In the 1940s, at the request of the Office of Strategic Services, a former incarnation of the Criminal Intelligence Agency (CIA), a psychiatrist by the name of Walter Langer produced a psychological profile of Hitler, including details about his childhood. Below, I summarize the most salient findings. Adolf Hitler’s father was described as frequently intoxicated, …

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The Fantasy Bond Originating From An Impoverished Mother-Child Relationship.

If, as babies and infants, our relationship with our mother (or other primary carers) was impoverished, misattuned and lacking in security and our mother/primary carer was insufficiently attuned to our basic needs and could not be relied upon to comfort us during periods of distress then, as a form of psychological defence, we may develop, …

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Odd, Quasi-Psychotic And True Psychotic Thinking In BPD Sufferers

A study conducted by Zachirini et al. (2013)investigated the prevalence of disturbed thought in 290 in-patients who had been diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder). The quality of disordered thinking measured in these 290 BPD in-patients was compared to the quality of disordered thinking measured in 72 non-BPD in-patients who had another (i.e. different) Axis …

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8 Dysfunctional Roles Within The Dysfunctional Family

Within dysfunctional families, according to various psychologists (e.g. Wegscheider-Cruse and Kellogg), each family member develops a dysfunctional role. The number of roles, and how they are defined, varies somewhat but eight roles, representative of those so far proposed, are as follows: THE ENABLER THE DO-ER THE HERO THE MASCOT THE LOST CHILD / LONER THE …

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Being Traumatized ‘Like Having Foot On Brake And Gas At Same Time.’

The traumatized state has been likened to the effects of the simultaneous depression of both a car’s gas pedal (accelerator) and brake. I explain why below: Our physiological state of arousal is determined by the interplay between our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and these two systems have the following functions : THE SYMPATHETIC AND …

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Recovery From Childhood Psychological Trauma

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Feel Constantly ‘Numbed Out’? Polyvagal Informed Therapy May Help

It is well known that our body’s self-protective response to imminent danger and threat (whether perceived or real) is to enter a state of ‘fight’ or ‘flight.’ However, what is perhaps slightly less well known is there is a third type of response:  the FREEZE RESPONSE. So, the ‘fight, flight response’ may also sometimes be …

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Reducing Anxiety By Calming The Amygdala

  Severe and protracted childhood trauma, resulting in the child being frequently subjected to extreme stress, can damage the development of the part of the brain known as the amygdala, which is intimately involved in generating feelings of fear and anxiety. Indeed, in individuals who have experienced such serious childhood trauma that they have gone …

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