MEMBERS ONLY ARTICLES

Four Ways Parents May Damage Their Child By ‘Adultification.’

‘Adultification’ of a child by a parent entails that parent inappropriately assigning the child an adult role within the family that s/he is too young, and too developmentally immature, to take on or cope with. It may involve the parent treating the child like an adult friend, a partner, a confidante, or, as happened in …

Four Ways Parents May Damage Their Child By ‘Adultification.’ Read More »

Controlling And Sociopathic Parents

  Controlling and sociopathic parents will tend to see their child as an object/possession to be controlled and exploited according to the needs of that parent. Sociopaths share certain characteristics which include self-centeredness, lack of empathy, an excessive need for power and control, deviousness and deceptiveness, a predatory and exploitative nature, lack of conscience/feelings of …

Controlling And Sociopathic Parents Read More »

The Vital Importance Of Having Our Traumatic Experiences Validated.

Research has established, beyond doubt, that, all else being equal, the greater our experience of childhood trauma, the worse both our physical and mental health are likely to be during our adulthood, and the more likely we are to die prematurely. Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it …

The Vital Importance Of Having Our Traumatic Experiences Validated. Read More »

Childhood Trauma: Abuse Between Siblings

  Like parental abuse of children, abuse of one sibling by another can fall into three main categories. These are : emotional abuse (for example, name-calling and teasing that has a negative psychological effect on the victim). physical abuse (this can range from aggressive pushing and punching to the use of weapons such as knives …

Childhood Trauma: Abuse Between Siblings Read More »

Do You Feel You Got Psychologically ‘Stuck’ At The Time Of Your Trauma?

If we experienced significant trauma in the past we may find we became intensely, psychologically caught up in it, and it retains such a mental hold over us, that it now feels we are almost ‘trapped in time’, unable to contemplate, let alone plan for, the future. Instead, we may find, very much against our own …

Do You Feel You Got Psychologically ‘Stuck’ At The Time Of Your Trauma? Read More »

Sadistic-Narcissistic Parents And Their Effects

1431 word article. Sadistic-narcissistic parents need to feel superior to others and maintain power and control over them. In order to achieve this end, s/he is willing to inflict pain upon others, most frequently emotional and psychological pain, but sometimes physical pain too. Sadistic-narcissistic parents will frequently be prepared to inflict such pain on their …

Sadistic-Narcissistic Parents And Their Effects Read More »

Identity Problems And Their Link To Childhood Trauma

How are identity problems linked to childhood trauma? Our identity (ie how we define ourselves) is based upon our beliefs, values, memories, behaviors, and how we go about living our lives in general. It comprises, for example, our likes and dislikes, our religious beliefs/lack of beliefs, our general philosophy of life, our political leanings, our …

Identity Problems And Their Link To Childhood Trauma Read More »

Borderline Personality Disorder And Childhood Trauma

We can say, with a very considerable degree of confidence indeed, that there exists a strong link between borderline personality disorder and childhood trauma; a large body of research has shown that individuals who have suffered childhood trauma and/or neglect are far more likely to develop borderline personality disorder (BPD) as adults than those who were …

Borderline Personality Disorder And Childhood Trauma Read More »

Parentification: A Closer Look at The Harmful Effects.

I have already touched upon the topic of ‘parentification’ in other articles but, in this one, wish to examine its possible harmful effects a little more closely. First, let’s quickly recap what is meant by the term. What Is Parentification? Parentification refers to when a role reversal occurs between a parent and a child. To elaborate: …

Parentification: A Closer Look at The Harmful Effects. Read More »

Hadephobia – The Fear of Hell Usually Stems From Childhood.

HADEPHOBIA, also known as stygiophobia, is the intense, chronic, irrational, fear of ‘hell’ and that one may be ‘sent there.’ It is serious enough to disrupt day-to-day functioning and significantly reduce the quality of life. According to the General Social Survey (2008), approximately three-quarters of Americans expressed some belief in hell.   Typically, the person …

Hadephobia – The Fear of Hell Usually Stems From Childhood. Read More »

Fear of Death Stemming from Childhood Trauma

The fear of death is common but can be particularly acute if one has experienced certain kinds of childhood trauma. The acute fear of death (which can be obsessional and greatly impair day-to-day functioning) is also known by two other names : – NECROPHOBIA (which derives from the Greek language – ‘NECROS’ = DEATH) – …

Fear of Death Stemming from Childhood Trauma Read More »

False Core Beliefs: Their Childhood Roots

    By the time we are adults, most of us have developed entrenched, deeply rooted, fundamental beliefs about ourselves. Psychologists refer to these as our CORE BELIEFS. Once established, they can prove very difficult to change without the aid of therapeutic interventions (such as cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT). A traumatic childhood, especially one …

False Core Beliefs: Their Childhood Roots Read More »

Possible Childhood Characteristics of Future Serial Killers

      Image source: Bigstock Research has demonstrated that many serial killers have much in common when it comes to their childhood experiences. Below, I provide a list of the common characteristics they may sometimes share. It goes without saying, however, that people with many or even all of these characteristics will not invariably …

Possible Childhood Characteristics of Future Serial Killers Read More »

Childhood Trauma : The ‘Silent Treatment’.

734-word article My mother was the master, or, in her case, the mistress, of this technique. She would retreat into menacing and ominous non-communication so that a black atmosphere, a harbinger of doom, permeated the house, evoking feelings of intense anxiety and fear – even terror. Silence can be as vindictive as speech. Anon I …

Childhood Trauma : The ‘Silent Treatment’. Read More »

Learning to Escape Past and Live in Present After Childhood Trauma

  One of the main effects of having suffered significant childhood trauma is that we can become painfully caught up in the past, sometimes reliving our experiences again and again as if we were actually re-experiencing them in the immediate present. This can lead to great distress and can be manifested in the form of …

Learning to Escape Past and Live in Present After Childhood Trauma Read More »

Always ‘Zoning Out’? : Dissociative Disorder Explained.

    Those of us who experienced significant childhood trauma are at a far higher risk of developing the psychiatric condition known as DISSOCIATIVE DISORDER in adulthood than are the rest of the population. Unfortunately, however, it often goes unidentified as it can, not infrequently, be misdiagnosed (most commonly as depression). Not least because the …

Always ‘Zoning Out’? : Dissociative Disorder Explained. Read More »

Betrayal By Parents : Long-term Effects.

When parents/primary caretakers, the very people who have a profound responsibility to protect and nurture their child, perpetrate abuse against him/her, the child’s psychological development is likely to be damaged on a fundamental level. The child will come to view the parent/primary caretaker as a threat and danger to him/her; as a result, the child’s …

Betrayal By Parents : Long-term Effects. Read More »

Childhood Trauma : Reactions to Trauma According to Age

Trauma affects children in different ways depending upon the age group they fall into. In this article, I will look at how 3 different age groups may be affected. These are : – very young children (0-3 years) – young children (4-11 years) – adolescents VERY YOUNG CHILDREN: it is a myth that just because …

Childhood Trauma : Reactions to Trauma According to Age Read More »