If, when we are growing up, our parent/s make us feel constantly inadequate and that we were never ‘good enough’ due to their constant criticisms and general, perpetual air of disapproval, we are put at risk of developing a serious depressive illness later on in life which produces feelings in us which echo what we were made to feel in childhood – that we are somehow deficient, unacceptable and, in short, not good enough.
However, Dorothy Rowe, a world-renowned clinical psychologist and author has, in fact, stated that it is her belief that only good people get depressed. After all, if an individual were a very bad, wholly amoral person without a conscience, s/he would hardly be concerned about not being good, let alone about not being good enough; such an individual couldn’t care less. In other words, only essentially good people worry about the possibility that they are not good enough. And, as, according to Rowe, a sense of ‘not being good enough’ lies at the heart of depression, it follows, as Rowe sees it, that it is only good people who get depressed.
As well as good people being more prone to guilt, self-blame, and self-hatred for (in their minds) ‘not being good enough’, Rowe also suggests that those who believe the world is ‘fundamentally just’ are also at greater risk of suffering from depression.
This is because their ‘just world’ belief entails the (erroneous) idea that ‘the good will always be rewarded and the bad will always be punished.’
Therefore, when something (randomly) happens to such people that are bad (like contracting an illness), then, based on their erroneous ‘just world’ theory, they may make the irrational inference that they somehow ‘deserve’ to be ill and are ‘being punished.’ And it is this mistaken view that adds another (unnecessary) layer of suffering which, in turn, makes it more likely that they will succumb to depression.
Childhood Trauma And Its Link To Depression And Anxiety :
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