Nobody chooses to suffer from borderline personality disorder; this is obvious.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is probably the most tormenting and agonizing psychiatric condition known to man. One in ten sufferers ends up killing themselves after years, or even decades, of appalling mental suffering. Due to the disturbing behavior that accompanies BPD, sufferers may become social pariahs and/or be rejected by their families – in the latter case, often by the very family member/s who have played a major role in causing the disorder; I have said elsewhere that this is rather like somebody cutting off all your limbs and then blaming you for bleeding for over them. Or injecting you with a cancer-causing agent and then blaming you for wasting away and dying.
One of the great torments of BPD sufferers is a belief that they are bad and that their behavior is due to some fundamental character flaw rather than due to a desperately serious psychiatric condition. It is this false belief (frequently caused by internalizing parental negative views of them whilst growing up) that contributes to many of the suicides and, as such, is a belief that is in urgent need of correcting.
On what grounds do I make this assertion? I summarize them below :
DAMAGE DONE TO THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF THE BRAIN:
The physical development of the following three brain regions is affected by our upbringing in early life and this physical development may be adversely affected if that upbringing is significantly dysfunctional.
- ORBITOFRONTAL CORTEX
Let’s look at each in turn:
AMYGDALA : This part of the brain controls emotions and, especially, negative emotions like fear, anxiety, and aggression. It follows that because the amygdala has developed abnormally in BPD sufferers, they will be prone to experiencing abnormal levels of fear, anxiety, and aggression.
HIPPOCAMPUS: This part of the brain plays a significant role in our ability to exert self-control. Again, it follows that because the hippocampus has developed abnormally in BPD sufferers, they will have difficulties with self-control, leading to impulsive and self-destructive behaviors.
ORBITOFRONTAL CORTEX: This part of the brain is involved with planning and decision making. Yet again, it follows that because the orbitofrontal cortex has developed abnormally in BPD sufferers, they will have problems planning ahead (including the poor ability to consider future implications of behaviors or to act in a premeditated or carefully deliberated manner) and be prone to irrational and illogical decision-making.
Furthermore, these three brain areas play a very significant role in mood regulation / our ability to control how we feel. As these three areas have developed abnormally in BPD sufferers, this helps to explain why their moods can fluctuate so dramatically, in turn leading to extensive problems both forming and maintaining healthy relationships with others.
Now, consider this: If a person was hit on the head with a hammer, causing brain damage which, in turn, affected how s/he felt and behaved, should s/he (the person hit) be blamed for this change in behavior? No, of course not. So, why should a different view be taken in the case of BPD sufferers? Indeed, to take a different view would seem suspiciously like discrimination against mental illness and a failure of imagination in regard to how devastating the infliction of emotional suffering can be.
Types Of Dysfunctional Upbringing That May Damage These Brain Regions :
These include :
- suffering abuse from parent/primary carer
- being neglected by parent/primary carer
- being brought up by a parent with a significant mental health problem
- being brought up by a parent/primary carer who is an alcoholic
- being brought up by a parent/primary carer who is a drug addict
What About The Role Of Genes?
There is NOT a gene for BPD.
However, some may be born with a greater vulnerability to being adversely affected by stressful environments due to high levels of sensitivity.
David Hosier BSc Hons; MSc; PGDE(FAHE).