Effects Of Parents Treating Their Children With Contempt

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  A particularly devastating form of emotional abuse is when parents or primary caregivers treat their children with contempt. Psychologists define contempt as a blend of two primary human emotions – anger and disgust. Acting contemptuously towards an individual also entails treating him/her as a much inferior being (e.g. intellectually, morally). Sometimes this contemptuous treatment may be …

3 Ways To Repair Brain Damage Caused By Protracted Childhood Trauma

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We have already seen in other articles that I have posted on this site that significant and protracted childhood trauma can physically damage the developing brain and have an adverse effect on the body’s physiology as a whole. In particular, it can: – effect the way that the prefrontal cortex, amygdala, and hippocampus interact which, in …

How Emotional Suffering Is Like Physical Pain.

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  At the height of my own mental turmoil, which lasted many years, my emotional suffering and distress were so intense that the only way I could carry on was to remind myself constantly that I could escape it through suicide. The major part of each day I spent obsessively going over and over in …

Types Of Mother Whose Parenting May Be Harmful

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  The clinical psychologist, Poulter, has put forward the notion that there are five main types of mothers, each type with her own parenting style, some of which may be more psychologically damaging to their offspring than others. The five types of mothers that Poulter identifies are as follows : 1) The unpredictable mother 2) …

Childhood Trauma Leading To The Need To ‘Self-Medicate’.

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Childhood Trauma And Self-Medication Until a few years ago I consumed excessive amounts of alcohol (leading to some appalling consequences that I will describe in future posts). Two main reasons for this most ill-advised and, above all, desperate behaviour are both clichés: one: I drank to reduce my social anxiety and, two: I drank to numb my …

Learning To Trust Again After Childhood Betrayal By Parents

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  When I was about nine or ten years old, about two years after my parents had divorced and I was still living with my mother, she met a man called Iain McDonald at a singles’ bar and soon afterwards invited him to move in with us (‘us’ being myself, my brother, who is three …

Why Parents May Ignore Their Child’s Mental Illness

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I have written elsewhere on this site that I suffered an alarming array of blatant psychological problems as a child, so will not repeat myself here. However, despite my youthful self displaying all the signs of incipient mental illness, these signs failed to motivate my parents into sending me for psychiatric assessment, let alone treatment. Indeed, …

Why It’s So Hard To Talk About Our Experience Of Severe Trauma

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Why Trauma Can Be So Hard To Talk About  ‘Language is a cracked kettle on which we beat out tunes for bears to dance to, while all the time we long to move the stars to pity.’ Gustave Flaubert Whenever I have become highly emotionally upset about my traumatic childhood experiences, in the presence of …