Did Your Dysfunctional Family Make You The ‘Identified Patient’?

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‘ The person [in the family] who gets diagnosed is part of a wider network of extremely disturbed and disturbing patterns of communication’ R.D. Laing DID YOUR DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY MAKE YOU THE ‘IDENTIFIED PATIENT’?   BATESON PROJECT : It has been theorized (originally in the 1950s as part of the Bateson Project, led by Gregory …

Expressing Childhood Trauma Through Externalizing Behaviours

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Externalizing Behaviour : Have you ever smashed a piece of crockery or something similar out of anger or frustration? (I know I have.) If so, you were using what psychologists term an externalizing behaviour. Such behaviours are an expression of our negative feelings directed outward into the external environment. (Internalizing behaviours, in contrast, involve us …

Characteristics Of Abusive Mothers

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Abusive Mothers: What Are Their Characteristics? It may come as a surprise to many, but, in the case of young children, mothers are more likely to physically abuse them than are fathers. This, of course, is partly due to the fact that mothers usually spend more time with young children than do fathers, which, in …

The Effects Of Being Ignored By Parents As A Child.

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After my mother threw me out of her house when I was thirteen, I had no choice but to move in with my father and his new wife (and therefore now my stepmother). My father behaved in such a distant manner towards me that he may as well have been inhabiting a different galaxy, several …

True Anecdote: The Day My Mother Threw Me Out At 13 Years Of Age.

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My parents divorced when I was eight. My father, therefore, moved out, leaving me to live with my highly unstable and histrionic mother and older (by three years) brother. Not long after this, my mother began to use me as a kind of ‘counselor’. Indeed, she would sometimes refer to me as her ‘Little Psychiatrist.’ …

Those In Grip Of BPD Do NOT Deserve Blame For Their Actions

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¬†   We have seen in many other articles that I have posted on this site that there is a strong association between the experience of childhood trauma and the development of BPD. Sadly, compounding their problem, those suffering from BPD can be stigmatised by their friends, associates, work colleagues, and even by their own …

Why And How Childhood Trauma Can Turn Us Into Addicts

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We frail humans can, all too easily, become addicted, psychologically and/or physically, to a large array of substances and behaviours. I provide a list of examples below: – alcohol – drugs¬† – tobacco – work (people who are workaholics may also suffer from the condition known as perfectionism)) – food (people who overindulge in food …

Is Your Mother Self-Absorbed, Lacking In Empathy And Narcissistic?

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I have already published several articles on the effects on us of being brought up by a narcissistic parent. In this article, I intend to focus upon the main characteristics that are frequently found in narcissistic mothers. These characteristics are as follows: 1) Self-absorption: she regards her own needs as absolutely paramount which completely take …