Dysfunctional Parenting Leading to Pathological Sibling Rivalry

 

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‘Am I my brother’s keeper? Yes. Interestingly, in my case, I share that honor with the Prospect Park Zoo.’

-Woody Allen, My Speech To The Graduates.

Reseach suggests that certain types of dysfunctional family (click here to read my article on ‘scapegoating’ in dysfunctional families) can give rise to pathological sibling rivalry and sibling abuse (the term ‘sibling abuse’ refers to a situation in which one sibling bullies another in an extreme way).

 

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HOW CAN DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES LEAD TO PATHOLOGICAL SIBLING RIVALRY/SIBLING ABUSE?

There are various reasons; these include:

1) Children in dysfunctional families may often have very little, or a complete absence of, emotional support from their parent/parents/carers; this, in turn, means the children themselves have not acquired the emotional resources to care for each other.

2) It has also been suggested that, in dysfunctional families, the parent/parents/carers may, either on a conscious or unconscious level, employ the use of a ‘divide and rule’ strategy leading to the children being in perpetual conflict with one another; this leads, from the parents’ perspective, to their offspring being more vulnerable, more exploitable and more easily manipulated.

Certainly, in my own case, my mother would join in with my older brother’s verbal abuse of me – they would both call me ‘poof’ (I was highly sensitive) and ‘scabby’ (I self-harmed so always had wounds on my arms and legs) deriving great pleasure from doing so.

3) Thirdly, the effect on the children of living in a highly stressful environment can lead to them DISPLACING (i.e. ‘taking out’) their anger (e.g with their parent/s) dissatisfaction and frustrations on one another.

4) Fourthly, because there is generally a high level of conflict within dysfunctional families, the children are likely to have LEARNED aggressive and bullying behaviour from the very people who should have been acting as their role models.

5) Rosenthal and Doherty (1984), psychologists who have carried out important research in this area, found that abusive siblings are very likely to have been significantly abused themselves by their parent/s.

6) Another finding which has derived from the research of the above two psychologists is that, in some families, the abusive sibling is, on an unconscious level, given covert/tacit permission to behave aggressively towards the sibling who is the victim. In other words, the parent can be COMPLICIT IN THE ABUSE.

7) Seventh : it has been suggested that by bullying a sibling in an extreme way the sibling who is doing the bullying gains A SENSE OF CONTROL AND POWER IN AN ENVIRONMENT IN WHICH S/HE IS OTHERWISE LARGELY IMPOTENT.

 

SERIOUS INJURY OCCURRING AS A RESULT OF SIBLING ABUSE – FURTHER FINDINGS (Green, 1984)

Further to the above, the psychologist Green (1984) has found that those who inflict serious injuries upon their siblings frequently :

– have frequently been subject to physical abuse themselves

and/or

– are part of families which are in extreme crisis

and/or

– have suffered maternal rejection/deprivation

and/or

– have recently lost their father (eg. through death, divorce or parental separation)

and/or

– perceives the abused sibling as a ‘favourite’

THE EFFECTS OF BEING AN ABUSED SIBLING :

Experts now believe that significant sibling abuse can lead to adverse effects upon brain development in the same way as parental abuse can (click here to read my article about this). This, in turn, can again cause cognitive, psychological and physical (psychosomatic) symptoms similar to those caused by parental abuse. Such symptoms include poor concentration, loss of pleasure in life (anhedonia), loss of social interest (withdrawal and isolation), depression, anxiety, anger/hostility and psychosomatic symptoms (symptoms caused by the effects of stress on the body) such as upset stomach, headache etc.

Sadly, this is far from an exhaustive list.

RESOURCES :

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David Hosier BSc Hons; MSc; PGDE(FAHE).

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